I hope this helps someone. Many of the things I mention are things I would google and just needed to hear. Whether it was just the philosophy or hacks. But I couldn’t always find what I needed to hear. So instead, I went with my gut and just tried it. And now, the next person who googles it, will find it.
I know this isn't easy and some of this stuff is easier said than done. It took almost two years to get to where I am now and I had so many set backs and frustrating nights. That's why I mentioned those moments, because it's stuff that I wish someone had told me. And it's an ongoing thing. I literally take sleep one night at a time. I think part of "conquering" sleep, is to recognize that it won't always be perfect and set backs are part of the process. Thinking about sleep is just a part of my life now. And part of my committed relationship with sleep is to think about it. But there are still many nights I have to work really hard to have it reciprocated.
I'm not a very religious person but I try to be spiritual. Yes, I know it's hard to define spirituality. But for me, it’s making positive deep connections with the world around me, with people, with nature, and the world inside me. And without a commitment to sleep, I just can't make any of those connections. I honestly don't think I will ever really understand the meaning of life, but I do know that making sleep a priority, will get me closer.